Back when we were figuring out what we were doing about our wedding, so many thoughts were going through my mind.
It seemed fairly obvious to me what we should do. Without question, having our parents witness our marriage was important. And, we couldn’t throw together a proper wedding including everyone important to us, for time and monetary reasons.
But- we knew our family and friends were disappointed. They understood why we were changing our plans, but they were still sad. We were too.
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Being fairly active on popular wedding website boards, I knew that lots of people have a small civil ceremony or elopement, then plan a reception/party for later. Some people wait years, some people wait weeks. Some people include a vow renewal, since many of their loved ones weren’t there to see the original vows.
I liked the party idea for our original 2013 date. But I thought the vow renewal would be lame. After all – isn’t that for things like 10+ year anniversaries? I mean, at that point we’ll have only been married a little over a year.
But then I thought – well, maybe it seems lame to me, because I was there when I said my vows. But you know who wasn’t? Almost everyone important to me. Heck, one of my sisters has never even met my brand new husband!
Then I found this article on offbeatbride.com, and it made up my mind:
On Vow Renewals and Getting Weddinged
So yes, next year we are having a vow renewal/party to celebrate our first year of marriage, and to incorporate the friends and family that missed our wedding.
(On a side note – this was never a question to Mike. He’s been saying all along he wanted to do this, so I don’t know why I put so much anxiety into it. I should have just listened to him.)
So for now, this blog shall live on, but instead of planning a wedding, it will be about planning a vow renewal! And maybe some newlywed bliss type stuff. Now to think of a more appropriate blog name…
